Justice is Balance
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Justice is Balance

The boys will arrive later today for the dadportion of their week, and 2) I’ve spent most of my morning eradicating all the evidence of my debauched, kid-free bachelorhood. I may raise some eyebrows when I say this, but I truly believe responsible parenting means rinsing all that caked vomit out of the drapes and recovering every bullet casing — even the ones that roll under the fridge — in order to be the best role model I can be.

As I was gathering up all the undergarments and drug paraphernalia from the grotto, I found myself thinking about work/life balance. It’s been a huge topic among moms forever, but in this time of elevated expectations, dads are feeling it, too. I wish I could write more about it, but the truth is I’m terribly unqualified to do so.

Because at this moment, right now, pending the inevitable cataclysmic event that will screw everything up, my work/life balance is really great.

I’m not sure how it happened, but I guess it dates back to my dad, whose bankers’ hours brought him home at the exact time every night. Door, kiss, couch, martini, right before dinner. The steadiness of his routine is sort of amazing, when I think about it. But that’s the model I had to work with when I envisioned my own fatherhood, and I think it’s served me pretty well.

I had The Crazy Jobs in my 20s and 30s, but since I’ve been a dad I’ve been a financial editor, then unemployed, then a high-school math teacher, then unemployed again, then WAHDing it up in my current gig. All of which got me home every night, kept my weekends free, and afforded me lots of time with my kids, even after I split up with their mom.

And that’s a big point: It’s not lost on me that a big part of this balance is being single. Frankly, cramming “engaged fatherhood” and “engaged couplehood” into a nebulous term like “life” seems terribly reductive, since each of those is a full-time job completely separate of your full-time job.

I’m grateful that circumstance has let me be such a big part of my kids’ lives. And even though I’ll likely die alone, it’s good to know that, when my sons come home, they will find me there, waiting for them on the couch. Usually after I’ve just finished vacuuming all the cocaine out of the cushions.

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Indeed, not a few know the story of Max Schireson who resigned from the position of CEO of a multibillion-dollar company to concentrate on family and become a father full of time. He enjoyed his new job.

Schireson stopped being the leader of MongoDB Inc., an Internet database company, in a recognition he launched on the blog. Well, I will not talk about him, but all the different workers who may be nervous about this situation. Passion is so passionate to be channeled as a goat breeder but shackled by activities as a financial advisor in an elite area office.

It’s too little story wrapped in a complaint that his heart and mind were not in the stiff cubicle in such an office. Prefer to be in a cage, give goat food, market milk and meat with joy, while continuing to gain knowledge about animal husbandry. Also a story about some web designers holding law degrees or undergraduate psychology and authors with a bachelor’s degree in civilian tips. Does a legal scholar become a recycling business? Why not? Organize and control everything from home. Become a boss for yourself.

Already there are a few outstanding stories about wisdom about a child who wants to buy his father’s time so he can play together. How dare you pass it and not care about our child fulfilling it for just an hour and two? Working not only in terms of satisfaction in the lesson that is achieved from income, does the routine have a salary name or is not fixed like a project honorarium. More than that, it works, in other words, inner satisfaction because it is worked on with love and peace of mind because the family no longer protests it because of simple things.

Oh yes, this is indeed the dilemma of not a few parents today. I also often feel protests from the family. For those who are accustomed to and comfortable with the regularity of work schedules and certainty of income every month, it certainly will not be easy to adjust to a plan that can change at any time or honorarium that is not paid by the client.

I used to hear anecdotes that were not uncommon; that is, men don’t deserve to work at home. He must have a house to pick up sustenance for his family. A man who lives in residence cannot be called a man. If this matter is negotiated at this time, it must be something that is no longer acceptable. Men can sit at home, open their computers while monitoring children playing and learning. There is nothing wrong. He still works. Only the location has changed. Only time can be arranged by yourself.

Return to Max Schireson. Ah, he is already rich, wants to be published from his own company and lives in a place with a family, his account is still fat. “What about me?” Create your comfort. No need to witness how Schireson’s decision was for him and his family look at what you and your family need. The bachelors, they can still quickly assess how good the options are for themselves and if they are married later.

Many cool activities that can be done by a man to maximize his passion and talent from home. Maybe you are the one who has successfully resisted the heart’s turmoil? Share in the comments column!

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Oh, yes. And speeches.

The principal said some things, some alumni said some more things, the teachers rephrased those previous things, and six students came up one by one to say things in a disarmingly precocious way.

I love the idea of inviting members of the grade to write a brief speech and then deliver it in front of a large crowd. Public speaking is an important skill that builds organized thought and feeds self-esteem, and anyone allowed to do so, especially at this young age, gets a strong leg up toward understanding how crucial it is to be able to present ideas cogently before an audience.

The thing is, they chose six kids to speak from the 53 in the class. And all six were girls.

I mentioned this to my son’s teacher, and she sheepishly replied that the boys’ speeches were all a little “scattered.” (At first I thought she said “scatological,” which made all kinds of sense.) But then I had to fight hard to keep it together when the large annoyance balloon burst in my head.

First of all, so what? I mean, I get that these speeches serve as marketing to the parents that “Look what a great job we did educating your kids!” But does every one of them have to read like Churchill during the blitz? Will the Earth wobble off its axis if a fifth-grader’s 200 words don’t have a taut throughline?

And even if most of the boys’ essays were lacking, was it too much trouble to sit down with a couple of the more promising authors and work with them to craft speeches that were more presentable? Are we teaching our kids, or merely evaluating them?

I’m surprised to realize how ticked off I still am about this, over a week after the fact. I think it sent a crappy message to the boys that they don’t measure up, and it’s put me on my guard to look for warning signs that either of my sons is becoming educationally discouraged.

Boys are having a hard enough time keeping up in an educational system that is failing them. Many of them don’t even have a male teacher until they’re teenagers. They’re learning that education is the girls’ thing, along with responsibility, nurturing, and other characteristics of adulthood, while males are more aligned with wreaking havoc and creating messes that the girls will clean up.

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Justice is Balance

The boys will arrive later today for the dadportion of their week, and 2) I’ve spent most of my morning eradicating all the evidence of my debauched, kid-free bachelorhood. I may raise some eyebrows when I say this, but I truly believe responsible parenting means rinsing all that caked vomit out of the drapes and recovering every bullet casing — even the ones that roll under the fridge — in order to be the best role model I can be.

As I was gathering up all the undergarments and drug paraphernalia from the grotto, I found myself thinking about work/life balance. It’s been a huge topic among moms forever, but in this time of elevated expectations, dads are feeling it, too. I wish I could write more about it, but the truth is I’m terribly unqualified to do so.

Because at this moment, right now, pending the inevitable cataclysmic event that will screw everything up, my work/life balance is really great.

I’m not sure how it happened, but I guess it dates back to my dad, whose bankers’ hours brought him home at the exact time every night. Door, kiss, couch, martini, right before dinner. The steadiness of his routine is sort of amazing, when I think about it. But that’s the model I had to work with when I envisioned my own fatherhood, and I think it’s served me pretty well.

I had The Crazy Jobs in my 20s and 30s, but since I’ve been a dad I’ve been a financial editor, then unemployed, then a high-school math teacher, then unemployed again, then WAHDing it up in my current gig. All of which got me home every night, kept my weekends free, and afforded me lots of time with my kids, even after I split up with their mom.

And that’s a big point: It’s not lost on me that a big part of this balance is being single. Frankly, cramming “engaged fatherhood” and “engaged couplehood” into a nebulous term like “life” seems terribly reductive, since each of those is a full-time job completely separate of your full-time job.

I’m grateful that circumstance has let me be such a big part of my kids’ lives. And even though I’ll likely die alone, it’s good to know that, when my sons come home, they will find me there, waiting for them on the couch. Usually after I’ve just finished vacuuming all the cocaine out of the cushions.